By Misty Noster, M.S., LMFTA
While suicide is never an easy topic to discuss, the consequences of never seeking help can prove more dire. Whether you are seeking information for yourself or a loved one, know that assistance is always available. If you or a loved one is at risk please call the national suicide prevention lifeline 800-273-TALK (8255) or dial 911.
Perhaps you recently heard a loved one claim that they should “kill themselves”, be sure to ask them openly about their feelings and plans. While the aim is to not panic, be sure to maintain a balance of love of concern. Do not be afraid to use the word “suicide”. Having these discussions does not lead to ideation that was not previously there. In addition to communicating openly, be sure to validate their feelings. Do not dismiss threats of suicide as a “call for attention”.
Some warning signs may include:
• Sudden changes in behavior
• Withdraw or isolating from friends and family
• Increase in aggressive behavior
• Increase in impulsivity
• Increased feelings of hopelessness
• Feel they may be a “burden to others”
• Experience intense emotional or physical pain
Specific Behaviors to watch for:
• Increased use of drugs or alcohol
• Hoarding pills or obtaining a weapon
• Extreme changes in sleep patterns (too much or too little)
• Giving away of possessions
• Saying goodbye to friends and family
**Be sure to ask if they have a specific plan and means for suicide. The more detailed their plan is, the higher they are at risk for suicide.
How can I help?
If you or a loved one are in immediate danger, seek professional assistance immediately.
Be sure to remove weapons, pills or other dangerous objects from the individual.
Offer support and listen without judgment. Often those who feel suicidal are experiencing intense emotional pain.
Being vulnerable can be uncomfortable and frightening. See if you can assist the individual with making their first appointment with their doctor or mental health professional
You can also ask how you can help. It may be as simple as sitting with someone as they are experiencing an intense bout of anxiety.
Are you a teen struggling with suicide ideation and who would like to talk to another teen?
Try teenlineonline.org This online resource is a hotline which is operated by teenagers who have received specialized training. They can be reached at 310-855-4673 or you can text TEEN to 839863
Would you like to speak with a mental health professional?
If you are no longer in immediate danger but would like additional mental health support we are here to help. At Ohana we strive to create an environment of hope and healing. We’d like to support you in leading the life you wish to live.
Give us a call at 425-686-9509 to see if we’d be a good fit.
Sources:
https://www.crisistextline.org/get-help/suicide
https://www.nami.org/Learn-More/Mental-Health-Conditions/Related-Conditions/Risk-of-Suicide
https://www.verywellmind.com/what-to-say-to-a-suicidal-teen-2611331
Misty Noster, M.S., LMFTA is an associate licensed therapist at Ohana Behavioral Health.
